And I went in anyway…

7 Mar

This was the day that I pushed through inhibitions and shocked my children to boot.

I enjoy a swim, and on a Sunday morning at my health club you need to get there early to do a few lengths before the children arrive for “splash club”.  So I duly trotted down to the changing room at 8:30am, only to discover that I had forgotten my bathing costume. Rats!! It’s time sensitive – I haven’t got any time to go home and come back so… what to do? Pre-Covid you could always borrow a swimming costume from the lost property but that option isn’t there now so…

Well I was wearing a fairly encompassing black under garment, and having a look at it, it stretched to right up to the base of my black bra. It could easily pass for a swimming costume if you didn’t look too closely. It was perfectly decent. As was the bra – a sturdy underwired model with plenty of supportive material  – not a flimsy lacey see-through number.

I cogitated, I hesitated, could I do this, should I do this? I thought, “Yeah, I’m going to walk down to the pool with a devil may care attitude and do my lengths… even go into the sauna… wear my decision with pride”.

I felt a bit uncomfortable as I walked out of the changing room, however, I actually also felt a bit exhilarated to be stepping out in such a way. I thought I should just walk nonchalantly with my towel loosely wrapped and stride in as though I was wearing your normal every day black swimsuit and not a substitute – albeit something that was doing absolutely the same job, was perfectly decent, and comfortable.

I got to the pool area and stepped out of my towel calmly into the water. It’s a busy time on a Sunday morning pre-splash club and… no one batted an eye lid! Not when I was swimming, not when I was in the sauna, the water spa, or walking up the side. It was absolutely fine, I got my swim, there were no operational disasters and no horses were frightened! Result!

My daughters were appalled when I told them what I had done. The comments were, “Eeww, no Mum, how could you?!”, and “That is totally unacceptable!”.

As you do, as a coach, I have turned this little incident into a learning curve.

Have you ever dithered on the edge of doing something because:

  • Everything wasn’t exactly right?
  • You weren’t totally sure as to how you were going to look or feel?
  • It was the first time of doing something and the nerves were coming on?

Well I certainly have, many a time: Launching a new course; starting to do live videos; wanting it to be exactly right with no risk involved. Well, nobody ever got anywhere without taking a few (calculated) risks. They certainly never broke new ground or moved forward at any pace. And neither will I or you.

What I say is: feel the fear, and yet still dip into the water in your spanx and bra anyway! 

Oh and it’s always a hoot to shock your children a bit.

To find out more about Fiona’s training workshops or coaching to help you improve your communication skills and push through your inhibitions, do contact her on and ask for details.

Fiona Whytehead
By Fiona Whytehead

Founder and Director, Locus Coaching

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